Words Create Worlds - Defining Matrescence

When we become mothers, we are learning to mother alongside our baby who is learning to 'baby'.

Being born female does not mean that you automatically know how to be a mother. This feels like it should be obvious, but in our society, there is this crazy expectation that we give birth and know what to do. HUH?

We are trying to figure out how to parent another human while we learn how to parent ourselves.

I literally cannot count how many times I thought I was doing the whole 'mom thing' wrong.

All the ways I doubted myself.

All the ways I compared myself.

All the times I berated myself for feeling something that I didn't think I should be feeling.

There were so many times I simply thought I was not cut out to be a mom.

When I learned about Matrescence, so much of this changed. Of course, I still doubt myself sometimes and wonder what the heck I am doing, but, now that I understand Matrescence, I know that I too am changing, growing, and learning. I can and do give myself so much more grace.

How much freedom is there in knowing this? And, this is just the tip of the iceberg! Stay tuned for more on this.

Words create worlds. Words can heal.

-Dr. Aurelie Athan

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Special thank you to Amy Taylor-Kabbaz, author of Mama Rising and founder of the ICF-accredited Mama Rising Coaching Program. I have learned so much about Matrescence from her and have healed many of my wounds while going through the Mama Rising certification. I am so grateful to have her as my teacher and mentor.

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If any of this resonates with you and you're interested in learning more about matrescence coaching, schedule a time to connect or email me at [email protected].

To learn more about how words create worlds, read my blog on Defining Grief.